Peace of mind is the most sought after commodity in human life. It appears that most of us are in a state of perpetual restlessness. On analyzing the causes of this restlessness, I have ventures to find for myself ten solutions that need to be followed religiously if we are serious about achieving perfect peace of mind.
1. Do not interfere in other's business:
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in other's affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic, and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction.
This kind of attitude on our part denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of god, for god has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men and women act the way they do because they are prompted to do so by the divine within them. There is god to look after every thing. Why are you bothered? Mind your own business and you will have peace.
2. Forget and Forgive:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often nurture ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults or harms us. We forget that the insult or injury was done to us once but by nurturing the grievance we go on excavating the wound forever. Therefore, it is essential that we cultivate the art of forget and forgiving. Believe in the justice of god and the doctrine of karma. Let Him judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forget and forgive and march on.
3. Do not crave for recognition.
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motive. They may praise you today because you are rich and have power but no sooner you are powerless they will forget your achivements and starts criticising you. Moreover no one is perfect than why do you value the words of praise of another mortal like you? Why do you crave for recognition? Believe in yourself. People's praises do not last long. Do your duties ethically and sincerely and leave the rest to god.
4. Do not be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know you work harder than your colleagues in office but they get promotions in the office and you do not. Should you be jealous? No, remember everybody's life is shaped by previous karma that has now become his destiny. If you are destined to be rich not all the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere but will only give you restlessness.
5. Change yourself according to the Environment.
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you may fail. Instead change yourself to suit the environment.As you do this, even the environment which has remained unfriendly for you, will mysteriously appear to be congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure what cannot be cured:
This is a best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Everyday we face numerous inconvenience, ailments, irritations and accidents that are beyond our control. We must learn to endure them, cheerfully thinking " god will it so, so be it:" God's logic is beyond our comprehensions. Believe it and you will gain in patience, inner strength and in will power.
7. Do not buy more than that you can chew:
This maxim should be always be remembered. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable to carry out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations, spend your free time on prayers, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind, which makes you restless. Fewer of thoughts greater is the peace of mind.
8. Meditate regularly:
Meditation makes the mind thoughtless. This is the highest state of mind. Try and experience it. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, rest of the time you will tend to become calm.
This will increase your efficiency and you will turn out more work in less time.
9. Never leave mind vacant:
An empty mind is a devils workshop. All evil deeds start in the mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive and worthwhile. Actively follow your hobby. You must decide what you value more-money or peace of mind.You will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement even if you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of god's name.
10. Do not procrastinate and never regret:
Do not waste time in wondering "should I or shouldn't I". Days, weeks, months and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Always remember god has his own plan too. Value your time and do things. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can rectify your mistake and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes but do not brood over the past. Do not Regret. Whatever happened was destined to happen that way. Take it as the will of god. You do not have the power to alter the course of go's will. Why Cry?
These ten commandments for the Peace of Mind by Mr. Diwakar.
