How to cope with negativity

Self-awareness is unique to human beings.But unfortunately human beings have a habit of comparing their happiness with those around them like friends, relatives or colleagues. We constantly bother that other people are living a more fulfilled lives.
We have to realise that we are in a much better condition than those who are struggling to have even the basic needs of life.
Dissatisfaction or constant nagging destroys the little happiness which we can get in each moment of life-holiday anywhere and you wonder if you should have gone elsewhere, buy three out of eight clothes you like while shopping and you fret later about not choosing the others.  
Dissatisfaction is a part of human nature, once we understand this, we can cope better with our own dissatisfaction.
I have gone through a bad phase in my life due to my illness, my sister asked that how are you passing your painful period and i replied " the same way  i have had done if this illness would have not been there". If i would have felt"why me?" then this frame of mind would have worsened my condition, so analyse and understand how to cope with negativity.
Although money is necessary but it cannot guarantee to give you happiness. Many people think that if they have "name, fame and wealth" they are the  happiest people in the world  but this is very unfortunate for them to think so.

We constantly crave for more, in our race to get more and more we forget to enjoy what we have and instead we become dissatisfied and we start comparing our lives with others. Thinking always about our previous sorrows makes us feel all the more unhappy and hence we don't live our present to the fullest.     

Good Health

From childhood till our old age,we learn from different experiences. Life is a form of language with its own punctuation marks much like the written language where each punctuation mark has unspoken meaning.


Recently have gone through  the difficult phase of my life where i was completely dependent upon others.
With the care and support from my family, I bounced back to good health within a reasonable period of time. I went through a number of check-ups concerning my vital organs. When each one turned out to be in good shape, I felt I was relearning and revising the lessons of life. I would like to share what I learned during that phase of my life.


Good physical health is the valuable gift of nature, position, power, status and acquisitions tend to loose their meaning if we are not blessed with energetic health. So it is important to recognize and nurture all the enabling
 factors which give us energetic physical health. The energetic physical health is person's asset, hence carefully and rightly use it  which would help us to spread happiness everywhere.


for our health, we should consume right and balanced food to maintain our system. The realisation that good health is a precious gift will help us treat the body as a trust, and motivate us to keep it clean and pure as a temple of divinity. 


The mind is a part of body which makes the physical energy, intelligible and gives it its worth.
A healthy mind in a healthy body generates good sound, clean and noble thoughts. 


One of the ways to express our good  health is by serving humankind through helping the sick person. We can start this by caring for the old member in our family, neighborhood,  community and also in hospitals.


Good health should be used to perform the right karma- in thought, word and deed.
        

Heart and Soul

Put your heart, mind, intellect and soul even to your smallest acts. This is the secret of your success.
                                                                                                  -Swami Shivanand
Give me love, give me peace on earth, give me light, give me life, keep me free from birth, give me hope, help me cope with this heavy load, trying to, touch and reach you , heart and soul.
                                                                -George Harrison
Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul, it is daily admission of ones weakness. It is better in prayer to have  a heart without words and words without heart.
                                                       -M.K. Gandhi

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The Right Attitude Can Lead To Empowerment

A young girl walks on the lonely street,unhappy with herself.She is not beautiful like others are,my friends have boyfriends and i do not.Since i am not beautiful I don't have any boyfriend.A strong breeze blows against her face and her silky hair starts dancing.It says to her 'Be like me my child,go with the flow and you will glow; The  breeze teaches her to have an attitude which will lift her beyond mere physical beauty.The breeze is constantly moving,so to move with the vastness of life without getting stuck, be like it, constantly move. The breeze says to her "I do not move for happiness but out of happiness, I do not dance with happiness but out of happiness. A youth should learn the art to operate from happiness and not for happiness. Happiness is an attitude. To be a winner in life is also an attitude."
Your attitude is more important than the facts as the right attitude can empower you. When you are empowered, you are bigger than the problem rather than the victim to a problem, And living in such a space makes you a winner.
An easy task becomes difficult when you have a poor attitude. A difficult task becomes challenging when you have a good attitude.

Change your mind. Always entertain healthy thoughts. Positive thoughts are great assets. A pessimist sees difficulties in an opportunity and an optimist sees opportunity in a difficult. Understand that one door closes, another opens. Trust life, insecurity invites you to be alert and not worried. It tells you to be creative and not to complain. One has to know how to take easy and float in life and not fight with life. You can't fight with the ways but learn to float.

Change your emotions. The quality of your life is the quality of your consistent emotions. When your emotion is low just change it, think of a happy incident.

Change your values. Have value that connect to goodness and connect two people. Lots of people fear failure, death, insecurity and rejection, come from a commitment that failure is only postponed success. Failure is the fertilizer  for success. If you bring this energy into your life, it will give you methods of handling fear or failure. Also understand fear is a movement of thought. Thought is nothing but a moment of mental word.
When fear happens, just become totally aware and don't  get identified with that thought with wordless awareness just watch. This watch will not allow the previous fear to affect your present.
You feel insecure because you have a concept of 'what is security!' and from that concept you are seeing life. Anything that does not fit your concept makes you insecure.

You have the spirit of adventure in you then insecurity is a great adventure for you to explore. You will have fun with that insecurity. Learn to trust that insecurity is inviting you to be creative.
 


                                                                                                  Discourse Swami Sukhabodhananda
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Maintain Peace At Home

In todays world, people fight with each other on minor issues.It is commonly seen that spouses are dissatisfied with each other and take out their shortcomings. To maintain peace, there are certain things which each one of us should keep in mind.

 Patience- if someone says something wrong to you, don't  argue with that person. When he/she is in good            
mood, then assert your point in a normal voice tone without offending that person. If there is a
 conflict between the spouses then it is the children's responsibilty  to settle their conflicts peacefully.
 
Respect- remember to give respect to each and every member of the family which is possible by paying attention to their small desires and wants. Remember not to say any word which hurts your spouse.
Ignore your loved ones small mistakes.

Control your Anger- do not confront the anger of the person instead keep yourself in cool temperament and leave the place at that moment. And when the person has cooled down, explain him/her what you wanted to say or do in a peaceful manner.

Help your partner- if your partner is unable to deliver his/her best then help your partner by providing an external employer to maintain harmony in the family which helps to reduce bitterness in the family.

Do not interfere in each others work- do not hold alot of expectations from each other, give your spouse his/her space.

Discuss each others' problems- like financial, emotional, health and other issues like children's education or marriage.Put efforts to deal with these issues.

Discuss your troubles with the elders of your family-their experience will provide you the best solutions for your problems.

Do not say words which would leave a mark in your relationships. Maintain patience during tough times and search for the best solutions to maintain the family's values and development    

 

Celebrate your Aloneness

Waves are not still in an ocean, they come and go. There is a process of life to come and go, thoughts also come and go, reactions come and go and everything on this earth comes and go. Hence one must have a sense of detachment from things. We become serious because of our negativity, even if something that helps us to brings prosperity, we think negative and deny it. We are unable to see the difference between a diamond and a mere stone. What causes you pain often turns out to be the blessing of your life. If any source gives you pain, feel gratitude for that, for suffering creates the opportunity for change. Sometimes, we need pressure and pain to make us change for the better. When a sculptor takes a stone, he removes all the unwanted parts and discovers the figure in the stone. Pain and pressure in life are processes that help to remove all unwanted substances from our lives and realise our true self . We came from One and we have to become one. The highest possibilities of life can come in aloneness. When we are two, then two is pass time. If our life is happy and if it is full of divine blessings, blessed by divine grace, it is because life gives us the fruit of aloneness. Only the divine is alone. The Divine is one.
If someone gives us the experience of aloneness, we should be thankful. When we are alone, we are able to understand ourselves, to know we are aware of ourselves, to see the value of our life. But nobody wants to be alone or to be single. If we become two or three or four then our potentialities gets undiscovered due to our involvement  in the materialistic world.So be happy with your aloneness and play your life with that as it gives us love, peace, happiness, joy, bliss and everything.                 

Power of Positive Thinking

Yesterday i met my Gurudev- Rajendra Muniji. He told us that the inner strength is above our bodily strength. Once we set our goals,it is important to have inner strength in the form of self-confidence and positive thinking.

To achieve success in life, it is important to have positive thinking. In each and every moment in our lives, we see both the good times and the bad times. When there are good times, we spend them happily and we believe that we can achieve any goal in our life. But when we encounter with the financial, health or family problems we tend to assume that nothing will be changed and we become hopeless about future. Whether it is good or bad times, we have to go through it so why not pass the difficult situations with positive frame of mind! With this the problems we face would be perceived less stressful. It is important to know that even difficult or stressful experiences help to refine our personality and if we face with future problems, it would help us cope with it through our experiences.

Each one of us has a hidden power of positive thinking.